Saturday, January 18, 2014

Date Night Topics

Wonderful Saturday morning to you, my friend!

Two years ago, I wrote out these questions after Husband and I turned off the radio for about four hours on an all-day road trip from Texas to Colorado.  I can completely recall the conversations, laughs, and awkward moments we had while discussing every single one of these questions.  I don't think we have had a more fun, yet informative discussion with one another like we did going through these.  In fact, those four hours are one of my absolute favorite moments with him!

I cannot say enough about the importance of taking some time to just talk, laugh, and reminisce with your spouse.  Life gets so hectic that sometimes we forget how important it is to take time and just discuss things with each other that have nothing to do with bills, the kid's schedules, or work.  These questions are the perfect way to spark conversations (and so, so many laughs) with your spouse.  So many emails still travel to my inbox saying how much fun and informative some of these questions were between married couples that tried them- I just think that is SO awesome!!!

So, whether it be over dinner or while lying on your couch in your jammies after the kids are tucked in bed, take some time and ask these to each other- you won't regret it!

Date Night Questions
  1. What would you consider to be your top five favorite foods?
  2. What would you consider to be your top five favorite desserts?
  3. What kind of gifts do you like?
  4. What is your favorite song?
  5. What are your top five hobbies?
  6. What makes you the happiest as a man/woman? What makes you saddest?
  7. What makes you the happiest as a husband/wife? What makes you saddest?
  8. What things do I do that annoy/irritate you?
  9. What do you consider to be your skills?
  10. What do you consider to be your weaknesses?
  11. What interests of yours would you like me to support?
  12. What are some issues you are concerned about that I am not interested in?
  13. What fears do you have?
  14. Is there something that you are looking forward to most?
  15. Do you have any fears?  What are they?  Why do you fear these?
  16. What do I do that gives you the greatest sexual pleasure?  (Yes, these things need to be discussed!)
  17. What other things stimulate you sexually?
  18. What can I work on sexually for you?
  19. Are there certain times when you need assurance of my love for you? How can I show that love?
  20. Question for wife:  How can I protect you (in all aspects)?  Question for husband:  How can I respect and honor you?
  21. Are there ways I can show my appreciation for you?  In what ways can I show you?
  22. What can I do that will make uncomfortable issues much easier to discuss?
  23. Do you have any desires that we have not discussed?
  24. What habits do I have that irritate you?
  25. By my actions, what things do you see me placing first in my life?
  26. How can I sacrifice for you?
  27. What are some of the most enjoyable things we do together?
  28. Is there something I can do to encourage and comfort you when you are worried, anxious, angry, or hurt?
  29. Growing up, what made your family different from others you knew?
  30. Who was your favorite elementary school teacher?
  31. What are three things that make your day better?
  32. What do you remember about learning to drive?
  33. What is your favorite memory of us together before we were married?
  34. When are you the happiest married to me?
  35. What compliments do you like the most from me?
  36. If we were rich, what would you want to do most?
  37. Do we show our love and affections enough?  If we have kids, do we do it enough around them?
  38. Is our marriage a good example to our kids? Our friends? Our family?
  39. Are there things I joke about that you wish I would not do?  Are there times you wish I did not joke?
  40. Do you wish I told you I love you more often?  Do I say it too much?
  41. Are there gifts I can give you to show you that I am thinking of you?
  42. What are you most proud of?
  43. Are you too hard on yourself when you make a mistake?  Am I too hard on you?
  44. What positive things have our kids added to our life? (If you have them, obviously.)
  45. With our friends' marriages in mind, do you see anything in theirs that you would like to do in our marriage?
  46. Do you ever feel insecure about my love for you?
  47. What is one thing you have learned about God this year?
  48. Has your spiritual walk grown?  Do you feel like you are on fire for God?
  49. Is there anything you have learned about yourself this past year?  Is there anything you have learned about me?
  50. How would you like to grow this year?  How would you like us to grow together?
  51. What are some things you admire about me?
  52. What are some things you see in me that you would like to add/change to yours?
  53. How am I with romance?
  54. What would you say is a strength in our marriage?  A weakness?
  55. How good/bad is our communication?  What could we do to improve it?
  56. How many kids do you want?  (Or if you have some, how many more do you want?)
  57. What you picture our kids being and looking like?
  58. Is there a certain moment when you were really proud of me?
  59. Why did you marry me?
  60. Would you choose me all over again?
  61. What about our marriage honors God?
  62. What does your "dream marriage" look like?
  63. What about me do you love the most?
  64. How will we make sure our love stays strong when we are separated? (Military spouses)
  65. While separated, how can we make sure our communication, trust, and fidelity stay strong?  (Military spouses)
  66. What do you do when you are angry or hurt by me?
  67. What is your dream date?
  68. What is one thing about my body do you love the most?
  69. When you first saw me, what did you think?
  70. What are activities that you would like our family to take part in together?

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